In my week to week life i meet and talk to alot of new PUA's and Self Helping people who want to improve their dating and success in life. This is great, its a big step in the right direction compared to the men who do nothing and then complain about it.
But unfortunately......the dating and seduction community is flawed in so many ways, this article will give one reason why and how it effects the success of the men in it.
Simply put....the difference between a person who is good with women and a person who isnt is usually down to a lack of EXPERIENCE, thats it. E.X.P.E.R.I.E.N.C.E. So the aspiring PUA or 'conscious human being' is battling against the years lost by his inability to sort this part of his life out. Its a shame because lack of experience can be down to so many silly reasons. For example with me....my lack of experience in the past was a result of being teased and sometimes bullied by my own friends. So this gave me a low self esteem and confidence, meaning i had no belief in myself. This is the same problem for alot of guys; who you are is defined by how the world responds to you, in other words its external confidence. So because of this you do not try that much because you believe you will fail.
But then you get older....and you realise that who you are is not who you were meant to be, you discover new ideas that you can put to use. You start to believe that anything is possible. LOVE THAT.
So then what happens.....you discover the game....you go out and put some ideas to use, you make mediocre progress. Then for the next 5-10 years of your life, you go and do day game and sarging in the night trying to pick up girls. But the strange thing is.....you dont progress that much, despite going out nearly every day to do this.
Why is this......Its the same reason you are not good with women originally.....LACK OF EXPERIENCE. You are all probably reading this and thinking.....'but i go out in the night and open 5 sets or 10 sets'. What is the point in that? Talking to 10-20 girls a night!!! That will get you nowhere. See the problem alot of PUA's where i live in Manchester have is that they only want to approach hot girls, or go to bars with hot girls. That is so counter productive it is a joke. Hot girls are the rarity PLUS the venues they are in have a terrible pretencious and stuck up atmosphere. If the goal is to get better with women....then how are you going to do that by 1....Talking to the few hot girls you see on a night or day out, and 2....Talking to the type of girl who gets hit on by guys everywhere she goes so has ridiculous amounts of shields and resistance to anyone who talks to her. How has nobody realised this yet.
Try this......go to big venues with loads and loads of people.....and meet as many different girls in there as you can. AND GUYS, you know, if thats your thing! Think about it.... if you go to a club with 1000 people in it and 20% of those people are girls.....THATS 200 GIRLS. You do that twice a week and that 400 girls a week. 400 GIRLS IN ONE WEEK. THATS 1600 GIRLS A MONTH. MYYYYYY GOOOODDDD. You might look at these numbers and think its not possible, but trust me.....It is. Plus....because not every girl will have shields up....you can have genuine conversations and find out more about her and improve your communication skills simultaneously. I am sure some of you have experienced the situation that when you meet a hot girl, its either goes really well....or maybe not well at all and is over in 20 seconds once you've tried opening her and got nothing.
Dont be one of those geeks who reads books on how to get women. That is so creepy!! You can read a how to book on maths or science. But reading a book on how to meet women is creepy.
Go out....meet more women, review what you were doing and your results, keep what worked, change what didnt work to something else, have sex with loads of women, meet the girl of your dreams, get married have kids and then smile :)
Sam
www.howtochangelifenow.com
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