Hi guys,
Earlier i was thinking about years ago when i was in High School and how nerdy and geeky it was perceived when a guy signed up to an internet dating site and used it to meet new women. It was the most socially unacceptable thing you could do! Then.....facebook came along....a way for us to bring women into our life in a more accepted way. Through the feature of adding friends, you could add near enough anyone you wanted to into your life and start talking with them online. But isnt this the same as Online Dating? It seems it, the only difference is what the website itself is meant to be for. Facebook is meant to be a social networking site, where we 'network socially' if you will.
The strangest thing about the world is that it creates tool's for us to use, to make what we do easier. Why do we want the easiest way possible to achieve something we want? If we want something....we should do whatever it takes. The journey itself is part of why we want what we want in the first place. Anyway....back to 'DatingBook'.....i have realised how many people are not built for having face to face interactions. Which is why they choose to use facebook more to communicate. My housemate is a perfect example. He will meet a girl when he's out and ask for her facebook name, and then chat away with her on facebook for days and days and days never actually seeing her. Its stupid. Last night i ended up going home with a girl i met in a club, when we get to hers she asks me about who i live with and when i said my housemates name she said..." Oh my god you mean...****....we have been texting for weeks, dont tell him about this because i am much more attracted to you". DO NOT BE MY HOUSEMATE, DO NOT BE STUCK IN THE TECHNOLOGY WORLD.
Nothing really happens in the technology world. Things happen in the real world itself. The example i just gave is a perfect show of it. Right now i do not use this facebook for meeting or communicating with women. I do have another seperate account i use for Club Promotions and....i am never on it unless its for that. If i meet a girl when i am out and tells me her whole name, i do not instantly think 'Yes lets add her on facebook'....Instead i wait till i see her out next and communicate with her then. Or if i like her enough i will get her number and call her. Or arrange to meet her. There are alot of cases where guys see a girl in a club, find out there name and then add them on facebook. Why do that??? You didnt have the balls to go up to her so why pretend to do it on facebook, its geeky. Last night also while i was dancing with my friends...To the left i saw a girl i knew dancing with 2 of her very good looking friends. After about 5 minutes i saw 2 of them doing the proximity movement....you know when girls see a guy they want to talk to so they move or dance closer and closer to them HOPING that they will approach them. It was so funny.....after about 10 minutes....no joke they were both dancing literally half a metre in front of me and my friends waiting and waiting for me to approach them (i never approach proximity girls....i let it build up because over time you will win, especially when they can find out who you are through the girl you already know). Now most guys would think the next day to add them on facebook, it be simple. You go to the friend list of the girl you knew and look through pictures of her and her friends till you find the one you saw her with. NO NO NO. Do not do this, facebook is a seperate world. Remember there are 3 world; the one in your mind, the one you see in front of you eyes and the one in the technological world. Do not mix them. Keep people in one.
Anyway, just thought i'd share some of my thoughts. Enjoy guys.
Sam
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