pof review ( not done a profile for a while)

[Daddy_Warbucks]

Hey if it works, it works, results speak for themselves over what any of us think.

Originally Posted by uk_james

So fellow single female fishes here in the pond of life, I'm pretty sure you don't want to hear me go on for hours about my hobbies, what I`m looking for, goals and my whole life story etc, do you? Are you going to read more? Yes you sure are!
I bet what you want to know is what sets me apart from every other single guy here looking for an online date!
Well, firstly... I know that you getting 50-100 emails a day and I can bet that 40% of them can’t even hold a good email chat with you and are more than likely not even from the same country as you and are trying to make some money scam deal from some down and out small village in a place you have never heard off! Or are they straight of the boat asking you “how much?” or “rude about their or your body parts” and I'm sorry if I made you fall out of your chair just then...but hey, that`s life!
But wait, there's more!
Yes I`m single, but I like to meet a female who is on the same level as me or above! It may sound hard, but not every female on here is going to be my “catch of the day “ lol and sorry to say you may not even get a email back from me, yep I can busy as well like you and unless your profile makes you stand out, what`s the point in a reply!
So as you can see I’m a straight to the point sort of guy, but wait, there's more! Not only do I possess a quick dry wit, tell you how it is manner and can hold a chat, I`m also just a person like you, looking to pass the time on earth with good , funny , company !
So wanna know more? On my level and can prove it? Then say hi!

yeah, this does seem to be taking a little "too seriously", I would think lightening up a little more to come across that if you never really get a date here it doesn't matter. However, I don't know, maybe some of the girls like that over what they've had in the past.

I also tend not to acknowledge the fact that they get 50-100 cut n paste one sentence emails a day. If you have a decent profile, you have good pictures, and you send a halfway decent email that mentions something in their profile, that should shine through and speak for itself. No need to mention "im not like the others" as it makes it seem you are like the others.

Awesome job, btw. That kind of numbers from POF is impressive. I used to hit it up every 6 months or so but haven't done online game in awhile. I was getting tired of the neediness most of the girls seem to have on there.

[Daddy_Warbucks]

Originally Posted by WolfyStyles

are you really looking for dating or are you looking for sex. If you are looking for dating put dating, if your looking for sex put sex. I am a very big believer in being honest. Honest is not the way of an AFC but an alpha male. Now if your goal is to date and sex happens well than thats difference. But if you idea is just to fuck then make it know.

Now example when you go for a same night lay you have already telegraphed your going for it so she knows just through your actions. It doesnt need to be verbally said. With online dating thats different.

I highly disagree. Dating can mean anything. Dating can mean you want to go on string of first dates. All dating necessarily means over "intimate encounters" or whatever it is is that you're looking to hang out first.

Come on, we're guys, and girls do know it. They want sex too, but that's not part of the game.

By putting "Dating" down you're not saying you're looking to jump in to taking care of their kids. You're not telegraphing anything other than you're the average guy looking for someone cool to hang out with, and maybe after something slightly more than a hole and a heart beat.

Also, putting down "intimate encounters" would irrevocably reduce the quality and quantity of girls you would meet online.

[WolfyStyles]

Originally Posted by Daddy_Warbucks

I highly disagree. Dating can mean anything. Dating can mean you want to go on string of first dates. All dating necessarily means over "intimate encounters" or whatever it is is that you're looking to hang out first.

Come on, we're guys, and girls do know it. They want sex too, but that's not part of the game.

By putting "Dating" down you're not saying you're looking to jump in to taking care of their kids. You're not telegraphing anything other than you're the average guy looking for someone cool to hang out with, and maybe after something slightly more than a hole and a heart beat.

Also, putting down "intimate encounters" would irrevocably reduce the quality and quantity of girls you would meet online.

You and I do agree it seems were are getting messed up in symanitcs. If you are looking to just fuck and that it is it and then move on that is when you need to make it aware of that is what your going to do. Nothing more wrong then making a girl feel cared about and loved and respected fucking her then never speaking to her again unless you want to get laid. Dating means as you said you wana to go out and have fun and enjoy yourself and have a good time if sex happens it does. But your not going to leave them after you give sex. It shows there is a mutual friendship going on. Not friend zone but friendship. I do believe there must be friends before a relationship can spawn even hell for attraction to be built.

[uk_james]

cool replys

well i changed it to a crap lame profile and now out of the blue getting girls email me lol

[WolfyStyles]

Originally Posted by uk_james

cool replys

well i changed it to a crap lame profile and now out of the blue getting girls email me lol

great to hear

[lordcaine]

If you get cold approaches on your POF profile on a regular basis you're doing great. So far I have got several but have yet to come upon a single formula that gets them consistently. One of the keys is to generate new content on your profile from time to time. Different approaches appeal to different people, and changing it up keeps you interesting, especially if you're in a relatively small community like I am and the same people are seeing you instead of a vast spectrum of new people..

I just changed my profile on POF and am experimenting with a new approach strategy as well. Essentially, What I did was use the 4 questions they ask "Hobbies" "Goals" "Unique" and "Music" to make sensory based patterns linked to emotional states while answering the question.

1. What are your hobbies
I used a sensory based description of swimming to create states of comfort.

2. What are your goals/aspirations?
I used a goal of helping the world by becoming a great teacher of how to communicate with one another to create states of fascination.

3. What makes you unique?
I used the unique way I connect to other people to run something like an incredible connection pattern.

4. What is your taste in music?
I de-emphasized the usual genre-related answer in favor of talking about the passion of music to create states of passion.

For the "First Date" segment, I've had the best success with creating a very vivid sensory experience, doesnt matter what it is as long as it creates the right feelings.. Reading profiles gives you a great idea what kind of situations will fly with your local user base, around here, maybe 60% or more in some way say they love the outdoors, so I use that quite frequently and have had astounding results. When you're working with outdoor themes, it pays to utilize the seasons. Generally, even though people have a favorite season, when its cold you wish it was warmer and vice versa. Playing on a different season than the current one takes advantage of this, and also creates a sense of time distortion, making it seem like you've already been together for a while.

And my experimental approach involves writing a silly limerick for each profile I respond to, and being completely "Approach free" in wishing them success in recognizing when they've been contacted by someone who allows them to experience everything they are looking for.

If there is any interest I'll let you know how this approach works or does not.